Let me start by asking you a question and then I will share a few tips that will help you know how to build self confidence and self-esteem.

Let’s start with YOU right here and now.

How do you see yourself? Your self-esteem is how you see yourself. Are you happy and cheerful, sad and miserable, a ball of energy or completely lacking in motivation?

The good news is, that however you see yourself it can be changed, you can change the way you think, feel, and see yourself. Because self-esteem isn’t a thing; it is not a physical or hormonal imbalance that can be fixed with a change of diet, a pill or physical therapy. To esteem something is to regard highly, admire and respect and self-esteem is a gauge of how positively you view yourself. Confidence is the feeling or belief that you can rely on or have faith in someone or something and self-confidence is the belief you have in your own abilities to successfully achieve a good and positive desired outcome.

Recognize that both self-esteem and self-confidence are feelings.

So, if these are both feelings then the question becomes where did these feelings I have about myself come from? As the names self esteem and self confidence imply, those feelings come from self, they come from within us. Self-esteem is your measurement or gauge of how positively you view yourself, how closely you come to meeting your own expectations, and how you measure up to your potential of the type of person you want to be. It is ultimately your measuring stick, regardless of what is happening around you. Your self-esteem is not determined by what someone else thinks, it is not determined by what someone else does, it comes from you and what you think of yourself. It may be influenced by external forces, but you have control over your measuring stick and whether or how that external force or those other voices impact your self-esteem.

Recognize your feelings are like the weather …very changeable

Yes, if we are aware of how other people perceive us and what they think of us, then that can certainly affect how we feel about ourselves. If we are constantly being put down or criticized or bullied and made to feel unworthy or not good enough then those negative images will begin to take on a life of their own and we will indeed begin to reflect exactly that, and I want to show you a few tips on how to build self confidence and self esteem.  Always remember we become what we think about.

If you were asked to describe yourself in one word, what would that word be? Would it be something like, honest, obsessed, driven, compassionate, humorous, empathetic or any myriad of other possibilities? Write down the one word you would use to describe yourself. Is it the same word other people would use to describe you?

I like to refer to that one word, as the foundation for you to project your self, a reflection of who you really are and how the world perceives you to be. The most crucial element of your self if you are to be successful and happy with being YOU is that you must be authentic in other words you must be REAL. The picture you project to the world and the one people see, must be a true reflection of who you really are. People will see right through anyone who is pretending to be something they are not.

Either way, if you are wondering how to build your self-esteem and your self-confidence here are some of my top tips.

  1. Begin by thinking positive thoughts about yourself …
  2. Follow this up by always speaking positive messages both to yourself and about yourself…
  3. Remove negativity including people…
  4. Listen daily to positive messages and affirmations….
  5. Nobody’s perfect and you won’t be either so be kind to yourself …
  6. If you make mistakes forgive yourself and move on quickly…
  7. Focus on what you CAN change and BELIEVE in yourself…
  8. Do what makes you happy. …
  1. Celebrate the small stuff.